Hell of a marriage…

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I recently came across an article titled “Marriage is made in Hell” by Laura Kipnis, a Media Studies professor at the NorthWestern University. She presents marriage as an outdated and in some respect constrictive institution. I hate to think that I am as cynical as Kipnis, but I found myself agreeing with her observations. I came to the conclusion that marriage must experience a major overhaul to remain relevant in our ever changing society. A report by the Globe and Mail showed that in 2008, more than 40% of marriages ended in divorce, a 2% increase from the previous year. Marriage has its advantages, some of which are highlighted by Kipnis, but it has also proven to be a prison of broken dreams and desires for many people.

     Kipnis suggest that a successful marriage requires the denial of personal desires and goals for the union. She identifies some of the sacrifices that marriage demands, and I know many women and men who have endured discomfort to honour their wedding vows. My parents are an example, as they struggled for many years to keep their union together. Being leaders in the church, they felt they had a duty to set an example and fight for their marriage. Their stubborn attempt to stay together made home a living hell, and my sisters and I had to endure many fights between our parents. When they finally separated, we experienced a side of our parents we never saw before; they morphed into real people who loved every day of their new lives. Dad bought a red car, a colour my mother hated and mom travelled to Haiti, a destination my father forbade. It was clear that being single allowed them to fulfill desires they were denied when married. I would go even further and say that the separation had released them from a match made in a personal hell.

  The comedian Chris Rock jokes that the wedding reception is a set up, as couples will never again experience “the high” felt at this ceremony; it is all downhill after this point. However the ceremony is not alone in creating a false sense of reality. Women who grew up with images of Disney princesses riding happily ever after into the sunset with Prince Charming, are given a rude awakening when the glass slipper does not fit. Men who are caught up in the world of sitcoms, where every problem is solved within 20 minutes, will also find reality to be bitter. The very idea of being husband and wife harbours unrealistic expectations. There are many instances of couples who have lived together for many years separating soon after they get married. This is an indictment on marriage, as the couple proved that they had the ability to stay together outside of wedlock, but having made it “official”, heightened expectations and ruined the union. These couples can be accused of bringing damnation upon themselves by getting married.

With marriage rates on a steady decline and divorce rising, it is safe to say that many people have opted out of this institution. Its benefits are easily duplicated, making marriage redundant. The society is changing along with our values, and marriage still holds true to its core which fits perfectly in the Victorian era. The celebration of individualism, education, capitalism and “singledom” has allowed people to aspire for more than the title afforded to them in wedlock. Is it hell? I wouldn’t go as far as saying that, but I know that unless you are masochistic, discomfort and sacrifice are not appealing…and it R the truth.

 

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Who run the world….Ivy Blue Carter?

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I woke up this morning (Jan. 9) to the wonderful news that Beyonce had given birth to a bouncing baby girl. They named her Ivy Blue, or is it Blue Ivy, not sure which it is but we will refer to her as Oprah until they sort that out.

So, young Oprah entered the world and we will never be the same again. She is music royalty and unlike the monarch, I actually care about music royalty. Why am I so excited about this birth? Well, those who know me know that outside of Whitney, Beyonce is the greatest thing to happen to music in my life. I’ve even struck a deal with God to be reincarnated as her hair glue in my next life, so I will be very close to… young Oprah *dreamy eyes* 😀

There has been a lot of speculation surrounding this pregnancy. The craziest I’ve heard, and this is no small feat, was the child would die in 7 days as the illuminati desires a sacrifice of the 1st born child. At the time of typing this we are down one day, so I take it the Carters have 6 more to go before doing what they must?

Who are these ppl who come up with these stories?

Do they live in an abandoned warehouse somewhere fabricating these narratives?

They claim IVY means “Illuminati’s Very Youngest”, which forced me to ask if her name will change when she is no longer the youngest. Does anybody know the status on this? I must confess the early arguments were very compelling and I too was carried away in the tide, but I saw the “light”, got it, illuminati, light.. never mind.

Babies being born to music royalty is not new to the world, we have had so many over the years; Lisa Marie Presley, Bobbi Kristina Brown, but the thing that sets young…Oprah aside is that she is born to very private parents at the top of their careers. This can be good or bad.

Can u imagine this child being anything but gifted? The prospect of this child being another Latoya Jackson is sad, but there is another issue that desires even more sorrow the realization that she may actually look like her father. While a man can walk around with Jay-Z’s feature, it will be mighty hard for a woman to do the same. Let’s keep our fingers crossed that she looks like her mother and is as good a writer as her dad.

The name though, the name Bey, Blue Ivy, Ivy Blue, either way it is insipid. To be fair to Bey, celebrities are not really good in the naming game. Erykah Badu has Seven, no, not 7 children, but a son named Seven. Gwyneth Paltrow is busy raising Apple and Banana in England. Penn Gillette has Roxy Crime-fighter Gillette….seriously; I wish I were making that one up. Toni Braxton have two boys, Denim and Diesel…no comments. This name, Blue Ivy or Ivy Blue sounds like something u would see at Sherwin Williams, “I want the Ivy Blue for my bedroom, thanks”. I also hear it as the name of a drink at Margaritaville, “Give me another Blue Ivy, please”. Worse even it is the perfect stripper name for an employee at the Candy Shop, “Next on stage, BLUE IVY!!!!” The poor child, sorry scratch that, the RICH child. Though I may not know exactly what her name is one thing for sure is that she will never have to write that name on a resume for as long as she lives, and no matter what she does in life the media will talk about her.

All in all I am loving this and I am happy for the proud family. I’ve been a fan of Beyonce from the days she walked around with three back up singer, then she fired two, hired replacements, fired them and now she stands alone, no longer Beyonce and Them, but BEYONCE. I think she is a hard-working woman and despite what Illuminati theorist say, she worked for the place she has now. I’m looking forward to what she will write after this experience. I hope it isn’t an attempt in being “DEEP” *rolling-eyes*, but rather bubbly and fun and I will accommodate a one song in dedication to …Oprah.

Based on trending topics today and the news broadcast all over the world, one would find it hard not to agree that Blue Ivy “Runs The World”…..and that r the truth.